| Have you ever doubted yourself or been hesitant to | | | | you love. |
| speak out when others have ideas in conflict with | | | | So what can you do if negative mantras are |
| yours? Have you ever procrastinated because you | | | | interfering in your life? |
| were afraid you just couldn't do something perfect | | | | The first step is to recognize your negative mantras. |
| enough? Have you ever wondered why people who | | | | Begin by paying attention when uncomfortable feelings |
| are less talented, attractive or intelligent than you are | | | | surface. As you are aware of the feelings, "listen" for |
| seem to feel so much better about themselves than | | | | the negative thoughts passing through your mind. Ask |
| you do? | | | | yourself, "what was I thinking just before I felt like |
| Many intelligent, creative and successful people harbor | | | | that?" Once you recognize that you are sending |
| inner self doubt that would amaze anyone looking in | | | | yourself negative mantras, you can turn them into |
| from the outside. As a therapist, I see the pain that is | | | | positive ones, and bring about the changes you want. |
| caused when people beat themselves up mentally | | | | But sometimes it can be very hard to let go of |
| with negative self-talk. Some of the people who come | | | | negative thoughts, since they are often tied to deeply |
| to see me are already aware of the harmful | | | | held beliefs, traumatic experiences or unresolved |
| messages they give themselves. But others send | | | | emotions. In that case you may need the help in |
| themselves these messages unconsciously, replaying | | | | learning new techniques to get to the root of the |
| them over and over without even being aware of | | | | beliefs. |
| them. I call these harmful messages "negative | | | | I have been a hypnotherapist for over 25 years, and I |
| mantras". | | | | have found a combination of hypnotic and |
| For a long time, eastern religions have known the | | | | Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) to be the fastest |
| power of mantras. These are powerful phrases, | | | | way to reprogram old beliefs and mantras that aren't |
| repeated over and over, in order to bring about a | | | | working. |
| positive spiritual change. And though you might not | | | | To put it simply, hypnosis and NLP provide you with |
| have such a fancy name for it, the chances are that | | | | tools you can use to change deep underlying beliefs. |
| you probably use mantras everyday. Quite simply, | | | | These skills can be learned and done on your own. Of |
| mantras are the things we tell ourselves. A mantra | | | | course, continuing you education with a coach, |
| could be what you say to yourself to get psyched up | | | | hypnotherapist or guide is the fastest way to learn |
| for a big meeting. Or what you tell yourself to stay | | | | these techniques. Much like a good gardener, a person |
| positive when life is getting you down. When mantras | | | | trained in these techniques can help you clear out the |
| are positive and constructive, they can help us enjoy | | | | weeds that are choking the life out of your garden. |
| our lives and achieve our goals. But the negative things | | | | Once these weeds have been cleared out using |
| we tell ourselves can also act as mantras, and can | | | | hypnotic techniques, you can learn to use |
| have a profound effect on our lives. | | | | neuro-linguists anchor the positive mantras in place of |
| Negatives mantras can cause you to feel responsibility | | | | the negative ones. When they are combined you have |
| and guilt for things that are not your fault, hamper your | | | | an powerful way to reprogram reactions. In fact, you |
| ability to get along in relationships, or cause you to | | | | may not even notice the new positive messages you |
| doubt your own talents or abilities. These feelings can | | | | are sending yourself. What you will notice is a new |
| lead to over-eating, anxiety, procrastination, addiction | | | | feeling of comfort, safety, and satisfaction that |
| and depression. Negative mantras can keep you from | | | | permeates every aspect of your life. |
| achieving your goals and take the joy out of the things | | | | |