Counteracting Stress in your Everyday Life

Fortunately, there are many effective ways to reducewaves of relaxation flowing down over your body and
stress within our everyday life at work and at home.these waves can move in time with your breathing.
Some of them can be done by yourself, and with aYou should feel how the relaxation is moving down
little practice, they can be instrumental in helping youyour body with each new wave. Once you have done
avoid any long term detrimental effects that mightthis regularly, wherever you are, you can stop for a
have otherwise have occurred from your ongoingwhile, even for just a minute, or as long as you are
stressful situations. The key point to understand in theable, and imagine you are in your relaxing place or the
relief of stress is that relaxation is incompatible with thewaves of relaxation are flowing over you while you
stress state, so that if you can generate relaxation inbreathe in the relaxation-inducing manner.
some way, you will automatically be countering theYou can also do deep breathing while imagining the
stress in your life.stress flowing out of your body with each breathe you
Meditation is one of the key ways people can reduceexhale.
stress and introduce a feeling of complete mental andAnother very effective way to reduce stress is by
physical relaxation into their lives, one which canpracticing muscle relaxation. Remember that relaxation
continue to provide help in dealing with any stressis incompatible with the stress state, so that if you can
experienced throughout the rest of the day. I want togenerate relaxation in some way, you will automatically
say here, that, because of meditation's connection withbe countering the stress in your life. Relaxed muscles
Eastern religions, many of you might feel that it is not inare the opposite of the tensed muscles experienced
consonance with the life you are leading. The truth is,with stress. If you learn to relax your muscles, you will
meditation is a valuable technique that is not of itselfbe in a more relaxed state and your stress will be
religious, but has simply been incorporated by variousreduced.
religions for their own purposes. It can be utilized in aMany people use what is called, progressive muscle
completely non-religious way to achieve deep statesrelaxation. You should consult with your doctor before
of relaxation and great stress relief. Those sufferingusing this method if you have back problems or
from serious stress should not hesitate to make usemuscle spasms, or any other condition you think might
of this valuable resource for reducing stress in theirlead to injury from this program. Starting either from
lives.the top part of your body or at your feet, you tighten
The basic form of meditation is simply to focus yourthen relax each set of muscles. For example, you
attention on one simple and relaxing thing. This relaxesmight tighten your fists and hold this for about five
the mind and keeps it from dwelling on stressseconds, fully experiencing the tenseness of the
generating thought. As a result, the mind gets relief andmuscles used. Then you release this contraction and
with the mind more relaxed the body follows. To do it,completely relax the muscles. Breathe out as you do
you should be in a comfortable position. Some peopleso. It is important to focus your attention on the
meditate in the so-called lotus position, you may havedifferent feelings of tension and total relaxation. Take
seen on yoga magazines. But this is not at allyour time to fully experience the feelings of relaxation
necessary. You can just sit in a comfortable chair or liein the muscles. You can repeat doing this with each
on your bed. You may chose to meditate for anymuscle group, feeling deeper relaxation each time as
period, but 20 to 30 minutes would be a good period toyou release the contraction. Be careful when you
aim for. If you are worried you will lose track of time,contract the muscles in your feet and your back; do
you can use an alarm, preferably a gentle one, like athis deliberately, but gently and carefully. Practice
radio with music coming on or another softer choice ofthroughout your body for awhile, then you are ready
sound.for the next stage. Now you will tense all the muscles
Once you are ready, you can choose how toof your body at once and then release them, while
concentrate your attention. One very popular way is tosaying a word, like "relax" or a phrase, like "let go," out
concentrate on your breathing. Pay attention to yourloud or silently in your mind. Make sure you keep
slow breathing in and out. Here I want to point out,breathing in a relaxing manner as you are doing all
controlling your breathing, all by itself, can be a powerfulthese exercises. Never hold your breath. If practiced
influence on your stress and significantly reduce it.regularly, you can reach a point where all you have to
When we are experiencing stress we breathe shallowdo is feel in your body where you are experiencing
breathes up in our chest. When we are relaxed, wemuscle tension, think of that muscle group in your mind,
breathe slow, deep breaths by expanding our lowersay that word or phrase, and while you are in that
stomach area. Just by imitating the physiological statesstressful situation, you will experience relaxation.
of relaxation, by controlling our breathing consciously toExercise is another very effective way to relieve
be like that when we experience relaxation, we inducestress. It releases tension in the muscles, which leads
our minds and bodies to experience relaxation. Thus,to a state of relaxation when completed. It improves
we can note here that breathing to promote relaxation,blood flow to your brain and throughout your body to
even without the act of meditation is a valuablebring more nutrients and oxygen to these areas and
resource for reducing stress. The beauty of usingremove toxins and other waste products from them
breathing for this purpose is that it can be employedtoo. In addition, a body in better physical condition is
wherever you are, even at work. You can just stopbetter able to deal with the actual physiological
for a few moments and take a few slow, deepstresses created by being in stress creating situations.
diaphragm breaths and you will be able to counter anyExercising results in an improved mood. This may
stress you experiencing.result from physiological changes within your body, but
Another way you can meditate is to concentrate onthere is another reason as well. While you are
looking at an object. You can do this with anything, butexercising, especially if you are doing some sport, you
it can be more relaxing to choose a flower or anare focusing on other things rather then the concerns
attractive piece of glass or pottery or a candle with awhich were causing you stress. Exercise will also help
flame. Observe it carefully, noticing everything about it.you to sleep soundly, and getting enough healthy sleep
Of course, this can be enhanced by breathing in theis an important part of combating stress. You should
relaxing way at the same time, even if your attention isexamine your sleep habits and make sure you are
no longer on your breathing, but on the object. Somegetting enough sleep each night. Many people do not
people can become very relaxed by focusing on aget enough sleep and this contributes to the stress
sound repeated silently in your mind. It can be shortthey experience trying to cope with things during their
word; it can be a number, like one, or the word "easy,",waking life. If you are one of the individuals who do not
or the traditional sound used in religion, Om. You canget plentiful sleep, you should seriously consider
even make up your own! Today many people haverearranging your life to get more sleep. Make sure you
sound machines, and some of you may prefer to sitconsult your doctor before beginning any new
quietly with all your attention on listening to the soundsexercise program.
generated by your machine. You could listen to wavesThere are some forms of exercise that combine
on a beach, or crickets at night, or a downpour in ameditation, breathing and physical movement. For
rainforest. Many people get relaxed from just listeningexample, you might wish to try Tai Chi or Yoga.
to such sounds without using them for meditation.Remember, the best stress reduction system is the
There are also many meditative recordings designedone that works for you and leads to less stress and
to initiate relaxation in the person. Perhaps one ofmore relaxation. Often people can improve their overall
these will prove to your liking and be very beneficial toresults by just adding more pleasant enjoyable
you. While you are meditating in the way you havemoments during the day. Listening to your favorite
chosen, some other thoughts may enter your mind, domusic or reading a good book are some things you
not fight them. Just gently turn your attention back tomay have neglected to include in your life recently.
what you were focusing on.Taking the time to enjoy good food, and taking a brisk
Using imagery is another way to relieve stress thatwalk can all add up to less stress and a more
people find extremely pleasant. You can either use aenjoyable relaxing existence. A lot of little things can
remembered peaceful, relaxing scene you haveadd up and change the tone of your life toward the
experienced or make up an entirely imaginary one. Asmore positive. One of these things, often overlooked, is
you create this image in your mind, make sure toto include more humor in your life. This might include
involve as many senses as possible. For example, anseeing more comedies in the movies, and amusing
image of a beach should involve seeing the wavesshows on TV, for example, going to the Comedy
and the blue sky with some lovely clouds in it; while atChannel regularly, or reading your favorite comedian's
the same time, you should be hearing the sounds oflatest book. It is now accepted that humor and laughter
the waves and smelling the water and sand, feelingcan significantly lower stress and have very positive
the warmth of the sun and a light breeze on yourmental and physiological effects on your health.
body.You must experiment and see what works best for
Other imagery might involve seeing stress flow out ofyou. Often it may actually be a combination of things
your body, or things you are concerned with movingthat will best lead to you a less stressful, more relaxing
away from you into the distance. You can also seeand enjoyable life.