How to Be a Person of Influence

Every day we're confronted with situations where weability to finesse another person. They become
need to influence, lead and persuade people. Frompersuaded, often unconsciously, into seeing and
persuading your children to clean their room, tounderstanding your view.
convincing your boss to give you a raise. It's all aboutIf you can make people understand your view then
influence.they will be far more willing to at least meet you
Our ability to deal successfully with people determineshalfway. Even more so if you make them feel
the quality of our business life, our family life, and ouracknowledged, understood and appreciated. They
social life. Ultimately, our success in life and in anymay even end up doing or agreeing to something they
endeavor will be solely determined by how well wewouldn't have previously done because they feel good
influence other people. Our ideas will never see theabout making the choice.
light of day if we can't persuade others why our ideasNow, here's a big secret to influencing people; make
are good.the other person feel important and the more they will
Excellent influencing skills require a healthy combinationrespond to you. It's human nature for people to want
of interpersonal, communication, presentation, andto be recognized and to feel like "somebody." It's been
assertiveness techniques. But, there is no right way,said about recognition, "Babies cry for it and grown
nor is there only one way to influence others.men die for it."
Everything is a factor when influencing people.People will always respond in a negative way to you if
Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influenceyou treat then like a nobody, or talk down to them. I
People" gives an incredible insight into human behavior.see this all the time, particularly in families. Parents can't
If you've never read this classic book I highlyseem to understand why their kids disrespect them.
recommend it. There are also plenty of other greatOften times, the parents are talking down to their kids,
books out there on people skills and human nature. Itbelittling them, making them feel like their ideas are
would do us all good to gain more understanding onstupid, and making them feel unimportant.
this vital topic.People could gain a lot of ground by first listening to
We must, absolutely, have a proper understanding ofothers without judgment and criticism, hearing what is
people and their nature if we are ever to win others toimportant to them, and hearing what will move them.
our way of thinking. When you gain aWhen you know what will move them, you will then
properunderstanding, then, and only then, can youknow how to move them because you will be able to
become a successful person of influence.tell them what they want to hear. You can simply
Influencing is about being able to move things forward,show them how they can get what they want by
without pushing, forcing or telling others what to do. It'sdoing what you want.
the ability to work everything at your disposal, bothAgain, our successes in life will be greatly determined
verbal and non-verbal communication, to create theby how well we influence other people. So, we need
impact you want, rather than letting things just happen.to learn all we can about human nature and obtain
To best influence people you must have angreat people skills so we may win others to our way
understanding of yourself and the effect or impact youof thinking. When you gain a proper understanding of
have on others. It' s about knowing how othershuman nature and hone your people skills, then will you
perceive you. It can sometimes be looked at as thebecome a mighty successful person of influence.