How to Tame the Wild Ego

The ego is as illusive as oxygen is to see. Sometimes- Accept What You Cannot Change The only thing
we can catch a glimpse of it in ourselves but most ofthat is certain in life is change itself. Sooner or later...
the time we function without giving much thought tothings do eventually change. But sometimes you just
our own egos. We're more likely to experiencewon't be able to make change happen in your
someone else's ego especially when the person has atime-frame. Your ego will look for ways to blame
big one.others for your misery but in fact, your misery is
According to Buddhism and Hinduism, in order to reachcaused by your own inability to accept what you
enlightenment or Nirvana we must transcend our egos.cannot change. Also, accept that have an ego and it is
Perhaps this is true but most of us are just trying to bean everyday part of your life. It is a facet of who you
better today than we were yesterday soare and it has in its own way helped you to survive.
enlightenment seems to be a far reach.Accept it and thank it every once in a while for helping
Trying to define the ego can often prove to be asyou live.
difficult as obtaining enlightenment. According to the- Be Persistent No matter how many times your ego
dictionary ego has three unique separate meanings.rears its out-of-control head, keep attempting to tame
One definition reads: an inflated feeling of pride in yourit. You will begin to identify its ways, its words and its
superiority to others.feelings. You may not be able in the moment to
Another reads: self: your consciousness of your ownsuppress it, but through persistence you'll realize what
identity and finally - psychoanalysis - the consciousis happening. Sooner or later ~ you won't need your
mind.ego to intervene. The real you will be in charge of
No matter how you define ego, a fact that is certain...every situation so practice, practice, practice
until you tame it you won't enjoy a peaceful existence.persistence.
A well trained ego leads to a happier existence so if- Practice Forgiving The ego wants to hold onto blame
you are experiencing stress caused by your ownso it can use it as ammunition for a later fight.
unruly ego, then try these eight ego taming tips to helpHowever, it's only when we practice forgiveness that
you tame the wild ego in you.we can move on to new beginnings. Letting go of past
- Practice Humility Do quiet good for others. Don'thurts will open the door to greater happiness. And its
speak ill of anyone. You will recognize your ego whenimportant to remember to forgive yourself when you
it says, Hey... I want some credit here! See what I amcan't seem to let your ego move out of the way in
doing? Practicing humility is simple. It is action minusorder to forgive others.
words. So practice doing something good for- Focus on "You" and Not on "I" Everything wants to
someone else, quietly, without expectation of praise orsurvive, even your ego. The nature of the ego is the
recognition.survival of "I". It is part of us but it should not rule our
- Examine Your Life Never stop looking inside ofbehavior. To gain power over the ego place less
yourself to answer questions like "why". Why did I dofocus on"I" and more emphasis on "you". When we
this or why did I say that? Looking within may causefocus our attentions on the good for others, we no
your ego to kick in and try to protect and defend youlonger feel an unconscious need to fight for our own
from what it perceives as hurt. It will have you blamingsurvival. Practice using sentences that begin with "You"
others for what is wrong in your life instead of lettinginstead of "I". You will be surprised to discover just
you take complete responsibility. However... it is onlyhow often you speak of yourself throughout the
through taking complete responsibility for your actionscourse of your day. Stop wanting to prove yourself
and your own life that you will find your inner power.right. It is better for all things when we practice
The power that's hidden behind your ego.kindness instead of winning or acquiring.
- Stop Reacting - Start Responding Your ego loves to- Be Conscious Ease drop on your thoughts and your
tell that "jerk" exactly what you are really thinking. Theinternal dialogue. Listen to what you are thinking so
only way to stop reacting to situations in ways thatyou'll know what is about to come forth from your
get you absolutely nowhere is to be present in anyown mouth. Repeatedly blaming others or having
given moment. Practice being calm so that clearnegative thoughts and conversations only keeps you
thinking comes through instead of unthoughtful wordsfrom experiencing your true happiness and the
that fan the flames of a situation instead of speakingwonderful life that you deserve.
words that will squelch the fire. Don't let reactiveThe ego thinks it will die if it doesn't have control of all
responses, perhaps learned when you were a child,your situations but that's simply not true. Your tamed
define how you handle situations today. Learn to makeego will still be there when you need it. It just won't be
a reasonable analysis of a situation and then respondthe one in charge anymore. So start taming your wild
to it instead of taking an egoistic knee-jerk reaction.ego today for true freedom and happiness tomorrow.