Ju's Breast Cancer Experience Part 2: Initial Reaction When Diagnosed With Cancer

Ju came from a closely-knitted family of five sistersreally cried. I let it all out. The only person I did not tell
and two brothers. She was thirty-six years old whenwas my mum. I didn't want my mum to worry at that
diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995 - a mosttime.
unexpected and shocking episode indeed. It has beenQ: In front of everybody? Others cried too?
twelve years since her diagnosis and Ju is still doingJu: Oh yes.
fine. In May 2007, I conducted an in-depth interview ofQ: In 1995 when you felt a lump in your right breast,
her case.you went to the hospital. What made you decide to go
Q: Tell us how the problem started.for the lumpectomy? How long was the time between
Ju: It was 1995. My son was only seven years old then.discovering the lump and going to the hospital?
I always felt numbness in my right hand. One nightJu: Something like four to five months. Given a choice I
while sleeping, I felt a lump in my right breast. I jokinglywouldn't want to go for medical intervention. But
told my husband, "Alamak! What if this turns out to bebecause after doing the qigong and change of diet, I
cancerous?" I tried doing qigong etc. When I did it, therecould still feel the lump and a little numbness in the
was no numbness. When I didn't do it, it came backbody
again. In those days, I did not read and do not knowQ: When change of diet and exercise did not help, you
much about cancer. After the check-up, the surgeonwent to the hospital. What happened?
confirmed there was a lump and advised aJu: I went to the Specialists' Centre. After the surgeon
lumpectomy. So, I went in the morning to have theexamined me, he said, "Oh, very simple. Only the
lump removed. It was a 4 - 5 cm tumor. Two weeksoperation. Just come in the morning and in the
later, the doctor confirmed that it was cancer and Iafternoon, you can go back." He scheduled it for a
was asked to go for a mastectomy. I refusedweek later.
mastectomy. The first thought that came to her mindQ: Were you ready for the lumpectomy?
was: "Who is going to take care of my six-year oldJu: Oh yes! Once I made up my mind, that's it.
boy?" To most people, cancer is a death sentence.Q: So you wanted to get rid of it?
Q: Why didn't you want to remove the whole breast?Ju: Yes.
Ju: Because I always believe in natural healing. I believeQ: When did you break the news to your family?
that our body can heal by itself, if given a chance toJu: After the lumpectomy -- after the lab results came
do so. That was one of the main reasons. I alsoback. I went to see the surgeon again with my
believe strongly in going back to nature even beforehusband and my son. My son was running around -- I
my diagnosis.can still remember that. The doctor did not stage my
Q: Then, why did you go for the lumpectomy?cancer, except that it was a very early stage. But he
Ju: I thought that something that is not supposed to betold me this: "If you do your mastectomy, I guarantee
there, better to remove it.you that you will be cancer-free." But I did not believe
Q: So it is okay to remove a lump?him. I am very skeptical about things. I did not go back
Ju: (Nodded in agreement).to see him anymore. I realized that it was only I, myself
Q: But to remove breast?who could take care of my well-being.
Ju: No.Q: This lumpectomy -- was it a family decision or your
Q: Apart from believing in nature, is losing a breastown?
something that you do not want to happen? HowJu: I made up my own mind.
would you feel as a lady?Q: Did he suggest any other treatment?
Ju: I believe that our body is not permanent. Our bodyJu: No. He said that a mastectomy was good enough
is only for us to use temporarily for a good cause. So, Ifor me.
am not very attached to any part of my body. And IQ: How do you find your doctor? Was he an
have a very good husband who said that whatever Iunderstanding person? Was he nice to you?
wanted to do, I should just go ahead. He supported myJu: Yes. He did not pressure me. He just did his job.
decisions. And for me, any decision I make, it is my life.Q: Was he fair to you?
Q: So, you don't mind losing a part of your breast?Ju: Yes. I voiced out what I felt and he did not react
Removing a breast is okay?negatively.
Ju: Yes, but at that point of time, I said no. I felt that aComments
lumpectomy had just been done. My body had hardlyThe Cartesian Medicine treats the human body as a
recovered fully and you want me to go for amachine devoid of mind and soul. Doctors pronounce
mastectomy? That was one of the reasons why Ithe diagnosis in a matter-of-fact matter and the
was not for it.removal of women's breasts is nothing more than a
Q: So, it is not so much of "my breast is precious" and Iroutine procedure. Patients react to doctors' diagnosis
do not wanting to lose the breast?and prognosis with great emotional pains and distress.
Ju: I never felt like that at all.Ju "really cried" and let it all out -- this is something we
Q: You mentioned that you believe that natural healingencourage patients to do.
is the best. Did you grow up with this kind of thought?How a person reacts to an initial cancer diagnosis
Was it because of your family? Or something that youvaries from one individual to another. Some even try to
had learned or was exposed to?deny it. Others try to find scapegoats but in Ju's case
Ju: I believe in the way and life of Buddha's teaching."whatever has to happen has to happen." She did not
We are all part of nature. I believe in karma too.wallow in self-pity or indulge in a blaming game. Her
Whatever has to happen has to happen. And it myattitude was, since it has already happened, what then
case, it had already happened. So, let it be. Theis the next step to move forward.
important thing is to live. If I could, my aim was to haveReligious beliefs play significant roles in helping patients
a life and hope to see my son grow up. I started toto cope with their cancer diagnosis. Ju showed her
read books. I learnt that there was no guarantee of aSpiritual maturity when faced with the greatest
cure, irrespective of whether I do a mastectomy or aproblem of her life. In her case, the teachings of
lumpectomy. There is no difference.Buddha had helped her and made her realized that her
Q: When you were told that you had cancer, how didbody is not permanent and is only for her to use
you take the news?temporarily for a good cause. Indeed, if many of us
Ju: When I went back home, I was with my family. So,can appreciate this "truth", our world will be a great and
we sat down. My husband, my sister and all, and Iharmonious place to live in.