Metta - The Practice of Loving Kindness

Metta was inspired by the teachings of Buddha. ByInstead of feeling anger that the doctor's office is
consciously practicing random niceness we developwasting your time, consider that the doctor is caring for
into peace promoting individuals - even when oursomeone who may be much sicker than you are. If
stress threatens to control our world. 'They' say if wethe situation was reversed would you be thinking about
consciously practice anything ten or more times it canthe people who had to wait a little longer?
become habit. What a great habit it could be ifHow about being stuck in traffic and then finding out
everyone practiced being nice to others. While it is athat there was an accident and someone was
basic instinct to care for family and friends, consciouslyinjured? Do you blame the drivers' recklessness for
being nice to people we don't know is a different story.making you late or are you grateful that you are
People are afraid to reach out to others, often withhealthy and safe? Maybe say a prayer for the injured
good reason. The violence we read about, andand their families or go home and hug your own family.
sometimes experience, makes us keep a safeHave you seen someone struggling to reach
distance from anyone we don't know. Even still, theresomething in a grocery store and walked right by? Or
are plenty of safe opportunities to lend a hand. Theredo you offer to reach it for them? Would you let
are often community outreach programs that helpsomeone go before you in line if they only had a
seniors and/or children. Volunteering always makescouple of items? Or do you rush to get to the register
you feel good. When you feel good, you naturally wantfirst?
to share that feeling.Although I try to practice metta all of the time, there
In my experience, practicing yoga encourages metta. Iare always situations where I need to step back and
find that when I feel great physically and less stressedask myself if I reacted, or could I have possibly acted
mentally - I am simply nicer to people. It can be quitedifferently. Bring some awareness to your outgoing
difficult to take a step back when stressful situationsattitude, however you need to, and then try to take
arise and we want to act out in anger. Practicingthat step back and look at your actions from a
metta; knowingly being extra nice to people, can bedifferent standpoint. When I feel stressed and my
habitual if you allow it to be. My Yoga practicemetta practice seems difficult, I try to get back to my
promotes the awareness to look at situationsyoga mat, or at least practice some stress relieving
objectively.breathing. Find your source of virtue; that place in your
Structured programs are not the only example ofsoul that you can be to see clearly. Ask yourself
opportunities to practice loving kindness. You canhonestly if a situation was handled in the most positive
practice during every day circumstances ~ just bymanner that it could have been.
adjusting your attitude.Action and reaction are two very different things. Your
Let's take road rage as an example. Here you are,general attitude can promote either. Your outlook in
rushing here and there, always trying to stay ahead ofany given situation can determine the outcome. Should
the clock and get everything done; everyone wantsyou react to a negative situation or take action to
something and it seems to never be enough forimprove the circumstances?
anyone and then --- someone cuts you off and youThe bottom line is that you can control your attitude
have to slam on your brakes to avoid hitting them.and your perception of any given situation. A positive,
Yikes!friendly attitude can lead to others being kind. It simply
Controlling your angry thoughts and thinking about themultiplies itself. If someone is nice to you, you feel like
other driver is difficult. What if it is a mother rushing toyou should be nice to someone else, and so on it goes.
pick up a child - sick from school, or she may be lateYou create a ripple effect of kindness.
from work? What if it is someone's son rushing to aThere are countless ways to practice metta. Project
hospital or home to care for a sick parent? If you cankindness and avoid negative reactions. Opportunities
find some empathy - understanding - in your heart, youawait you every day, wherever you go.
are practicing metta.Promote peace.
Another example: Waiting in a doctor's office for hours.