Mindfulness Counseling & Psychotherapy For Marriages And Relationships In Boulder Colorado

MMT is an exciting new development in whichsome remarkable changes begin to unfold quite
mindfulness is applied directly to difficult emotionalautomatically. Any form of emotional suffering, or
states such as phobias, anxiety, anger and other formsdukkha, represents a state of instability and the
of emotional reactivity.Psyche hates instability and will always try to resolve
Personal relationships provide one of the greatestdukkha if given the freedom to change. Mindfulness
challenges in life and most of us will experienceand satisampajanna provide this therapeutic space
difficulties with patterns of habitual reactivity that areand freedom in which transformation and resolution
triggered by our partner. Our buttons get pushed andcan occur. This is an experiential process that usually
we become angry or upset. This dynamic is based oninvolves subtle changes in feelings and memories and
learned habitual reactivity in which both the perpetratoroften involves experiential imagery. The exact nature
and victim are compelled to react. You may sayof what unfolds is different from one person to
something knowing that it will cause offense, butanother, but the effect of this inner transformation of
unable to stop yourself from saying it. The victim feelsexperience eventually leads to the resolution of the
compelled to react by taking offense and becomingemotional energy that powers a reaction. When the
upset or angry.reaction looses this compulsive energy, called tanha in
The key to changing these repetitive patterns ofPali, then you find that you have more choices and are
habitual reactivity in both parties is to first recognizenot compelled to react, either in causing offense or
the reactions and then learn how to form a relationshipbecoming upset when your partner hurts you with
with the emotional energy that compels the reaction.unkind words.
Once you have recognized a reaction, then you canThis natural healing energy is called satipanna, the
actually study it and examine how it works. You begininnate wisdom-intelligence that we all possess and that
to see the reaction as an object to be investigatedbecomes active when there is mindfulness.
and known, rather than getting entangled in theMMT offers an exciting new way of working with
story-line of who did what to whom and who is rightemotions and provides a tool for improving well-being
and who is wrong. This is the first function ofand happiness and I invite you to look more closely at
mindfulness - learning to recognize a reaction, seeing ithow you can apply mindfulness to work with your
as an object and not getting seduced into furtherinner conflicts and dukkha.
reactivity.Peter Strong, PhD is a scientist and Buddhist who
In order to change a habitual reaction, it is essential thatspecializes in the study of mindfulness and its
you are able to "sit" with the underlying felt-sense ofapplication in Mindfulness Meditation Therapy. He
the compulsion to react. Mindfulness provides one ofteaches mindfulness meditation (vipassana) and
the best ways of working with these emotional triggercoaches individuals and couples in the application of
points, by keeping our attention firmly focused on themindfulness for resolving difficult emotional problems,
present experience of the emotion and preventing theincluding anxiety, depression, phobias, grief and trauma
attention wandering off into thinking and furtherand the management of anger and stress. Besides
reactivity. Mindfulness is called sati in Pali, the languageface-to-face work, he also works with individuals and
of the Buddha's discourses and the quality of purecouples via email and web conferencing. Visit
non-reactive knowing of the present experience of anEmail enquiries welcome.
emotion is called satisampajanna, clear seeing withYou can purchase a copy of Dr Strong's book
mindfulness.‘The Path of Mindfulness Meditation' through
When we are able to establish the relationship ofAmazon.
satisampajanna with our inner compulsion or pain, then