Notes from the Couch - Dare Yourself to Begin to Dream

The concept of mindfulness plays a central role inWhen you accomplish the above, you are ready to
Buddhism. The Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta,release the pain of the PAST. As you have probably
founder of Buddhism, stated: "Do not dwell in the past,noticed, I am quite fond of acronyms. I created the
do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind onacronym PAST to stand for the following:
the present moment." Mindfulness is an intentional andP rocrastination, A voidance, S tagnation, T repidation.
nonjudgmental awareness of one's thoughts andWhen you are stuck in the pain of the PAST, you are
actions in the present moment. When you becomeburdened with mind identification and estranged from
mindful, you are able to pay close attention to youryour inner voice. When you release the pain of the
thoughts without directly engaging or identifying withPAST, you are able to enter into a state of quiet
them. Mindfulness involves the understanding thatreflection to begin to visualize the life you were meant
thoughts are only thoughts; they do not define realityto live. To release the pain of the PAST, you must
and they can be released at any moment in time.bust through your shackles of fear to begin to allow
In my last column I introduced my slogan "Live, Dreampositive change into your life. It all starts with a future
and Thrive" and invited you to explore the followingvision. Your future vision is like a road map- it guides
question: What does it mean to you to thoroughly andyou in the direction you were meant to travel and it is
lavishly "live" rather than to merely exist? I discussedcreated by the deepest voices of your soul.
the integral role of your inner voice as you begin toThe act of dreaming should be fun and exciting. It is an
introduce balance and harmony into your life byopportunity to release your inhibitions, unleash your
identifying areas where energy is blocked or misguided,creative juices and tap into your deepest passions.
in order to unleash and redirect the energy towardsAllow yourself to be as extravagant and outrageous
your deepest passions. When you learn to hear andas you wish. Take a moment to project yourself one
trust your inner voice and identify areas of your lifeyear into the future and visualize yourself living a
where your core energy is either blocked or flowing inperfect day. Close your eyes, take a few deep
the wrong direction, you are ready to begin to dreambreaths and enter into a state of quiet reflection.
of new possibilities and exciting alternatives.Where are you, who are you with, how do you feel
I created the acronym "Dream" to reflect the following:and what are you doing? Describe in detail your
D isengage from commotion and chaos.physical environment, your appearance (hair, body,
R ecognize your hopes and dreams. E mbrace theclothing, etc) and what you are thinking and feeling.
present moment. A chieve a state of quiet reflection.How is your life different in your future vision from the
M ake a choice to release the PAST. I am notway it is today? What has changed and what has
referring to the type of dreaming you do while asleep,remained the same? How have you changed and
rather an act of dreaming that can only behow have you remained the same? When you
accomplished when you are completely, intenselycomplete the visualization process, commit today to
awake. To be awake in your life is to be connectedbegin taking the steps you must take to turn that vision
through all of your senses to the present momentinto a reality.
rather than lost in the past or the future. When youConsider this wise and poignant quote: That which the
achieve a state of mindfulness your senses aredream shows is the shadow of such wisdom as
heightened and the world is more vibrant- colorsexists in man, even if during his waking state he may
appear brighter, sounds become crisper and yourknow nothing about it....We do not know it because we
thoughts flow in and out of your conscious mind withare fooling away our time with outward and perishing
incredible ease.things, and are asleep in regard to that which is real
When you are embroiled in the commentary of yourwithin ourself. ~Paracelsus, quoted in The Dream
mind you cannot achieve a state of mindfulness. WhenGame
you remain attached to the past or the future you failIt is life's daily routine, attachment to external stimulation
to exist in the present moment. If you are not mindful,and relentless productivity that keep you away from
you cannot dream. When you disengage from mentaldreaming. It is a state of quiet reflection, inner stillness
chatter and shift your focus from the past and theand the deepest voices of your soul that move you
future back to the present moment, you are ready totowards dreaming. Relax your body, quiet your mind,
begin the process of conscious dreaming. To begin theshut down your computer, silence your cell phone, take
process of dreaming you must disengage from mentala few deep breaths and begin today to listen to the
noise and chaos, break your attachment to excessivedeepest voices of your soul. There is no time better
productivity, external stimulation and daily routine, enterthan the present moment to begin to dare yourself to
into a state of quiet reflection and appreciate the giftdream.
of inner peace and stillness.