| A starter for ten! I would like to offer you Ten Tips For | | | | as that would be my own fault! So hey-ho I will carry |
| Anger Management that you can try today. | | | | on with my day as best I can. |
| I understand that you may be skeptical. That is natural | | | | If this seems a bit of a stretch, a bit to hard to do, a bit |
| because anger episodes can be intense and make it | | | | weird perhaps then yes it kind of is. Think of it like this |
| feel like there is no solution. You may be thinking that | | | | though - who is harmed when we get angry feelings? |
| Ten Tips For Anger Management may sound too | | | | It is likely to be the person who is getting angry. And |
| good to be true. | | | | by choosing not to get angry you can make better |
| If it helps think of these as "tips for a healthy life" and | | | | decisions about how to deal with it. And avoid making |
| do them even if you don't get immediate results. | | | | the wrong decision. E.g. in this case that wrong decision |
| Believe me it won't be long before these simple things | | | | could be throwing a punch. |
| will improve your life. | | | | Hope you enjoyed this forth of my Ten Tips For |
| So without further ado, here is my Ten Tips For Anger | | | | Anger Management! |
| Management: | | | | 5. Exercise Aerobic Exercise, such as running, cycling, |
| 1. Breath Slowly How long could you last without | | | | swimming and rowing causes your body to release |
| another breath? Not very long at all! Sorry to be | | | | chemicals known as endorphins, which give you a |
| morbid, but I wanted to illustrate a point: Why do we | | | | feeling of a high. This is often known as "runners high". |
| take this essential function for granted and never give | | | | If you enjoy team sports like football, rugby, hockey or |
| it a second thought? | | | | basketball, or competitive sports like tennis or squash |
| Learning to breath deeply can be welcome relief for a | | | | you can also get this high. |
| lot of anger, stress and fear issues. It's not that you | | | | There are a number of benefits to the exercise. As |
| have to breathe deeply all of the time. Short deep | | | | well as the instant high, the exercise can be a good |
| breathing sessions once or twice a day can be a big | | | | "release" for the anger and a good escape (see earlier |
| help. | | | | on this page 2. Get out of the situation) above. Also |
| For a massive distress experience, sit or lie down | | | | being fitter should give you a more positive feeling |
| somewhere comfortable. Breath in slowly, and allow | | | | about life and more energy which will help. Exercise |
| the air to fill your lungs from the top at the chest all the | | | | wont solve an anger issue but it can aid other |
| way to the bottom around the navel area. Don't be | | | | methods of anger management by giving you a |
| afraid to allow those lungs to fill, and it's a good sign if | | | | positive boost. |
| your stomach comes out! | | | | Hope you enjoyed this fifth of my Ten Tips For Anger |
| Once you are full of air, hold it for a second, and then | | | | Management! |
| slowly breath it all out. S..L..O..W..L..Y... is the key. We | | | | 6. Take it out on the pillow This one is simple. You feel |
| generally breath a lot faster and shallower than we | | | | angry. Get a pillow. Punch it. And Again. And Again. |
| need to. | | | | Harder! Harder! |
| Have you ever tried Yoga? If you are keen on | | | | Now you feel better. It gives you a chance to express |
| improving your breathing try a local Yoga class. Yoga | | | | it and get the feelings out of your system. |
| classes vary in style and many cater for beginners | | | | However be careful with this one, as for some people |
| who may not be flexible or fit yet. In Yoga the breath | | | | it may stoke the anger even further. Try to judge if the |
| is King. | | | | pillow exercise is helping you by writing down on a |
| Hope you enjoyed this first of my Ten Tips For Anger | | | | scale of one to ten how angry you feel before and |
| Management! Read on for the other nine of my Ten | | | | after the exercise. |
| Tips For Anger Management | | | | Hope you enjoyed this sixth of my Ten Tips For |
| 2. Get out of the situation Now this must sound like a | | | | Anger Management! |
| cop-out. You are angry, having an argument with | | | | 7. Smile Smiling is usual reactive - we see an old friend |
| another person, perhaps your husband, wife, partner, | | | | or a cute baby and it makes us smile. But smiling can |
| friend, boss, mum, sister or colleague. Surely walking | | | | also be proactive. We can smile when there is nothing |
| away won't solve the problem? | | | | particular to smile about, just because it makes us feel |
| Well it might help in the short term. If the anger is | | | | good. And the good feeling reinforces the smile, in a |
| cycling around. For example one of you is getting | | | | lovely cycle. A smile can help you change your mood, |
| angry, saying hurtful things, making the other one angry | | | | even if only for an instant, and can be useful when you |
| who then says hurtful things, the situation soon spirals | | | | are feeling perhaps slightly irritated. It's a way to nip it in |
| out of control. Common sense, diplomacy, care and | | | | the bud before you become angry. |
| love evaporate for that moment. | | | | Again I recommend you deal with the problem that |
| Walking away can be very helpful. It allows both | | | | made you irritated. Think about if it was reasonable to |
| parties to reflect and get into a state of mind where | | | | feel like that, or if you feel in hindsight that actually it |
| resolution can be found. It could take some time, | | | | was silly to get annoyed about something so trivial. Try |
| minutes, hours or even a few days (depending on the | | | | to think how other people you know may react to that |
| person and the relationship). But if you give it enough | | | | same situation. I mention this because the smile isn't |
| time, when you reunite the situation should be a lot | | | | meant to be a way to avoid tricky feelings - they must |
| easier to handle. | | | | be acknowledged. It is a way to change your mood |
| The issues that triggered the anger may still be there | | | | for the better so a little niggle is less likely to ruin your |
| under the surface. Things may still need to be dealt | | | | day. |
| with. And now that you are both calm you have the | | | | Hope you enjoyed this seventh of my Ten Tips For |
| maximum chance or sorting out the situation. | | | | Anger Management! |
| Obviously you should judge when walking away is | | | | 8. Be flexible This tip is about trying to be a bit more |
| appropriate. It may not be for all situations. For | | | | flexible in your thinking and beliefs. This could mean |
| example you may be driving together down a dark | | | | simply changing your perspective as mentioned earlier. |
| country lane, or in a pressurized job like a chef, so in | | | | Or looking into alternative ways of thinking. Reading |
| some cases look for a way you can semi-get out. | | | | books about Buddhism and Law Of Attraction may |
| Often simply agreeing not to say anything for a few | | | | help with this. You can get some inspiration and |
| minutes can help. | | | | wisdom from these areas even if you don't adopt the |
| Add "Walking Away" to your arsenal of anger-busting | | | | entire doctrine. |
| solutions and it could save you from regretful action | | | | Being flexible can also mean simple being more willing |
| again and again. | | | | to go with the flow, saying yes, accepting the current |
| Hope you enjoyed this second of my Ten Tips For | | | | situation and knowing it is enough to do your best. |
| Anger Management! | | | | There is a lot that is beyond our control so there is no |
| 3. Avoid the trigger his is one step ahead of "getting | | | | use in getting angry with many things and people in life. |
| out of the situation". If you can figure out what triggers | | | | Hope you enjoyed this eighth of my Ten Tips For |
| an angry episode for you, then you can structure your | | | | Anger Management! |
| life so as to avoid it. | | | | 9. Write it down Writing things down can have a brilliant |
| For example being in a traffic jam when you are late | | | | mental effect. Writing lists can help us remember. And |
| for work might make you feel angry. So how do you | | | | writing your feelings about something can help you |
| avoid the traffic? Well maybe you can't... but if you | | | | come to terms with those feelings. It is a way to let |
| leave earlier it may not make you late for work | | | | out your anger without confronting the person or |
| anymore. And a longer term view might see you | | | | object you are angry at. And by doing so start the |
| working nearer where you live, or living nearer where | | | | process of forgiving or coming to terms with the |
| you work, or seeing if you can work from home 1 day | | | | situation. |
| a week. | | | | You can write it down using pen and paper, or |
| See if you can find one trigger than makes you angry, | | | | perhaps on a computer. You can choose to keep |
| and one step you can take to reduce the likelihood of | | | | what you have written, or to shred it, burn it or delete it |
| it happening. | | | | (OK granted it will be less ceremonious on a |
| Hope you enjoyed this third of my Ten Tips For Anger | | | | computer). |
| Management! | | | | Hope you enjoyed this ninth of my Ten Tips For |
| 4. Change perspectives Most episodes of anger are | | | | Anger Management! |
| directed at a person rather than an object. What is | | | | 10. Love Here "Love" refers to a common love for all |
| more likely to cause a person to get angry. (a) slipping | | | | people and things. A deep spiritual love, rather than a |
| on a slippery pavement, or (b) being pushed over by a | | | | romantic attachment. Practice this "Love", a feeling of |
| stranger on the pavement? | | | | truly adoring and respecting the world around you, and |
| Well I'd say probably being pushed... even though the | | | | you may find angry feeling subsiding. Like it is |
| result is the same. Because there is someone to | | | | impossible to be grumpy when you are dancing, it is |
| blame, anger is more likely to result. And whilst this | | | | not possible to be angry when you are feeling love. |
| may seem like a silly example, there is a lot you can | | | | Even if the feeling is only fleeting give it a go. This one |
| take from it in terms of controlling anger. | | | | can take a lot of practice if you are not used to it or if |
| If someone else does something we think is unjust, i.e. | | | | you are skeptical. Again if you are skeptical give it a |
| is against our beliefs and principles, then this could | | | | go, keep an open mind, and don't expect any kind of |
| cause us to get angry with that person. We may or | | | | "result". If you feel good it's a bonus (and you will |
| may not express it verbally, but the feeling can be | | | | probably feel good). |
| there inside of us. | | | | Hope you enjoyed this final tip of my Ten Tips For |
| A change in perspective could be to challenge our | | | | Anger Management! |
| own beliefs and values. E.g. if someone randomly | | | | I really hope Ten Tips For Anger Management has |
| pushes me over in the street then he must have some | | | | been helpful for you. You don't have to try them all at |
| kind of mental or emotional problem. And he probably | | | | the same time, just pick and choose as you go along. |
| can't help it. In fact I should feel sorry for him, as he has | | | | These Ten Tips For Anger Management are all from |
| to live with that, and I merely have a bruise that will | | | | personal experience and not just copied from |
| heal. In fact it would be more annoying if I slipped over, | | | | elsewhere so enjoy! |