The Shakabuku Rock of Kindness

I read an uplifting story about how a sickly KoreanKathy, that he had a shakabuku rock. He was going to
woman overcame illness by helping others. Her storycarry the stone with him to remind him to share
gave me the inspiration to use a similar tactic in myBuddhism with others. Unfortunately, Rich had
own life.discovered that he never had the opportunity to have
The woman began practicing Buddhism and wasa casual conversation with anyone at work. He also
encouraged to tell other about the philosophy, and toknew religious discussions at work were a taboo
chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. She gathered severalsubject.
pebbles and placed them in her pockets. Every timeHowever, the following day, a coworker discovered
she told someone about Buddhism, she removed oneRich lived close to his house and asked if they could
stone. In three months time all her stones were gone,carpool to work. Rich gave the young man a ride and
and so was her debilitating illness.they wound up discussing philosophy. This unlikely
The word for introducing others to this particular sectevent made it possible for Rich to tell the fellow about
of Buddhism is shakabuku. Proselytizing can be anBuddhism. Rich told the folks at the meeting that the
uncomfortable practice - even when an individual hasstone was a good reminder to take the time to share
experienced absolute proof that chanting works. WithBuddhism with others - especially those who are
that in mind, I decided to experiment with a whimsicalsuffering.
icebreaker at my next Buddhist meeting. I purchased aWhile I believe in the importance of spreading
number of colorful glass stones and placed them in aBuddhism, I thought that the stones don't need to be
large, glass vase. I passed the vase around and toldlimited to only religious introductions - or shakabuku. I
the members to take a few stones. They could takethought to myself that I could carry stones to remind
one, two, or a handful, but they would be using themyself to practice other good deeds as well. I try to
stones at a later date. Everyone participated. Somebe a thoughtful person, but it never hurts to have a little
folks carefully selected a single stone. Others took aphysical reminder.
handful. After everyone had their rocks I told themSince I have a habit of sticking my hands in my
about the story of the Korean woman. I asked eachpockets anyway, I can use this simple act as an
person to carry their rocks around to remind them ofopportunity to nudge me in a kinder, gentler direction.
the importance of telling others about their BuddhistThe act can be as simple as a smile to a stranger,
practice.opening the door for someone, or simply a kind word.
A week later, I was at a different meeting, and since II'm using my shakabuku rocks to create a shift in my
still had plenty of stones, I did the same icebreaker.thinking. Rather than making a mountain out of mole hill
One of the men, a fellow named Rich, had been at mywhen things do not go my way, my determination is to
previous meeting. He told the group that when hetake a mole hill of kindness and turn it into a mountain -
came home from the first meeting, he told his wife,one beautiful, glass stone at a time.