| p>How many times have you wondered: Why does | | | | When have you felt that way before? It could be that |
| this keep happening to me? Or Why do I keep | | | | that angry guy is showing you how uncomfortable you |
| attracting this kind of person? Maybe you've read The | | | | are with anger, or how skilled you've gotten at denying |
| Secret or studied the Law of Attraction and you're | | | | it, or how afraid of anger you are. Does he remind you |
| wondering how on earth you've attracted what you | | | | of anyone? Of anything that happened in the past? |
| have. | | | | Play around with it a little. Explore. Tune in to or try |
| Well, there's a very informative practice, called | | | | becoming the angry man. What does he say, what |
| Mirroring, which can give you powerful insights into why | | | | does he do, how does he feel? Chances are you'll get |
| you attract the people and experiences you do. It's | | | | a hit, an ah-ha. Oh, he reminds me of my best friend's |
| easy to start to use and has endless depth that can | | | | dad in 3rd grade. He was always angry. I was so |
| really give you a better handle on what's happening | | | | afraid of him because I never knew when he was |
| and how you can better manage what shows up in | | | | going to blow up. |
| your life. | | | | Great! So here's an opportunity to heal that inner-third |
| Mirroring is simply choosing to recognize the world | | | | grader who still holds that fear of Sean's angry dad |
| around you as a reflection of your inner being and | | | | which may have been generalized to angry adult men. |
| world view, sort of a window to your inner world, | | | | But wait, there's more. It's likely that other similar |
| including the hidden workings of your subconscious | | | | experiences have presented themselves since third |
| mind.. Mirroring is based on the concept of projection | | | | grade. You see, Life, is always presenting us with |
| (Psychologist R.D. Lang) and, in Buddhist teachings - | | | | opportunities to heal the wounds of the past. In fact, |
| polishing the mirror. Whether you take this concept as | | | | that's why we keep attracting similar situations. In this |
| absolute truth or a useful exercise, insights abound. | | | | case, the subconscious thought "I'm afraid of angry |
| I love using images to help clarify concepts like this. | | | | adult men", emotionalized by fear, becomes a strong |
| The one that I've come up with to illustrate mirroring is | | | | attractor for similar people and experiences. That may |
| that of a Dancer practicing in front of a mirror-the | | | | seem unfair, but it's actually a very clever way that |
| dancer uses the mirror to see how he/she is showing | | | | Life has of showing us where our wounds are, and |
| up, the mirror allows the dancer to see from a | | | | presenting us with opportunities to heal them. |
| different perspective things that she couldn't see | | | | If that's not cool enough there's more here! There's |
| without it, using that reflection he/she can use the | | | | usually another layer. A layer which reflects our own |
| feedback to refine the movements to reflect more of | | | | relationship to our self. We all have parts, inner aspects |
| how s/he wants to show up. | | | | of self which often show up with differing ways of |
| What shows up in your mirror (your life) is a reflection | | | | being and reacting. Here we have that inner |
| of you. Not just the external you, the clothes you wear | | | | third-grader, a scared little girl. But there's probably |
| or your face to the world, but also of all the parts of | | | | another part in here that's angry. He/she may be |
| you that are less visible, even invisible. All of your | | | | angry that we're scared, or angry that we put our |
| subconscious thoughts, beliefs, fears... are also | | | | selves in that situation, or angry at the angry man, or |
| reflected back to you by your life. | | | | angry at life for allowing angry men to exist. There are |
| Okay, that's great. So that angry guy at the office is | | | | many possibilities and it may take a little digging to |
| showing me there's some anger somewhere inside | | | | discover what's there for you. But when you do it's |
| me? Maybe. That's the easy part. Okay, so we know | | | | very healing and empowering. This work helps to free |
| there's something here about anger. Now dig a little | | | | us up from those old wounds and clears the way to |
| deeper. What are you feeling about that angry guy? | | | | attract what we DO want! |